Befriending Resentment

advocating for your deepest needs

Resentment isn’t proof you’re selfish — it’s proof that (1) YOU MATTER, and (2) you haven’t been treating yourself accordingly…YET!

How Resentment Builds…

Resentment shows up when you say YES even though you're exhausted, when your generosity gets taken for granted, or when you constantly accommodate others — only to be met with criticism, dismissal, or silence.

You might feel:

  • Snappy or withdrawn with people you love

  • Drained, bitter, or exploited

  • Like you're always giving... and getting nothing back

  • Stuck in a loop of “I should be fine” while quietly seething

Resentment grows in relationships where attention, effort, and intentionality goes one way. It brews in workplaces where you feel like you get “punished” for doing a great job because MORE gets added to your plate (while other incompetent coworkers slack off). FUCKING HELL!!!

Even though you feel LIVID, for some reason your throat closes up when it comes to saying something (anything!) to others. When you try to advocate for yourself, your mind goes blank. When you put things down to rest, you’re hounded by “SHOULD” messages or internal judgments as if you’re LAZY.

If Resentment Festers…

When you ignore your resentment or tell yourself you're "overreacting," the feeling doesn’t go away — it just goes underground.

Unchecked resentment can lead to:

  • Emotional shutdown, burnout, or outbursts that seem to come out of nowhere

  • Passive-aggression, disconnection, or unresolved fights in relationships

  • Lost sleep, physical ailments, and dropping work performance that creates more stress

When buried feelings fester into something entirely different, that’s called the Emotional Vortex.

Unresolved in feelings spill over into other areas of your life, adding further strain on yourself and those around you.

Out of stress, you create more mess, and you’re caught up in an endless cycle of who knows what feelings. (AHHHH!!!)

Resentment is your body sounding the alarm, saying:

  • Your needs EFFIN’ matter too!

  • You’ve been stretched way too thin.

  • You can’t keep setting yourself on fire to keep others warm!

When you stop shoving your needs & feelings down and start giving them space to breathe, resentment becomes one of the best tools to reconnect with yourself. It helps you recognize where you're:

  • Overextending yourself past your limits

  • Overly taking on what responsibilities & pains DON’T belong to you

  • Needing to give yourself the very care that you give away to others (even those who don’t really need it!).

Learning to work WITH resentment empowers you to:

  • Set clearer boundaries (because you matter just as much as others)

  • Speak up for yourself before you explode

  • Protect your energy in ways that align with your values.

But Resentment is NOT the Enemy!

  • What resentment is really about (it’s deeper than just being MAD!)

  • Why Highly Sensitive Persons & Empaths build it faster — and feel it harder

  • The Stages of Resentment (so you can catch it before it’s too late)

  • Scripts & practices for asserting your needs bravely & clearly so you don’t forget your words!

  • How to hold your ground even when others get mad!

WHAT THIS COURSE COVERS (IN JUST 1 HOUR!):

Let resentment be your guide to taking back your voice! 🔥

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    Rukmini Poddar
    Artist & Author of “Draw Your Feelings”

  • All my life, I have put others before me and I am burning out piece by piece. I often question whether the decisions I make are for me. I want to be more in control of my life instead of living reactively…proud of my emotions and feelings instead of ashamed…more confident in my relationships and career.

    D.L.
    The BIG Feelings Foundations Member

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    Melinda O.
    Therapist

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