Taming Perfectionism

Befriending Your Inner Critic to Work FOR You

Ready to turn your perfectionism from a harsh taskmaster to a trusted ally & advisor?

How Perfectionism Can Go Rogue…

When your Inner Critics or Managers are occupy the driver seat of your life, they can strain various areas of your life:

  • Emotional: Stir up constant anxiety that you’re not doing or being “enough.” Feeling guilty or ashamed if you make the smallest mistake — there goes your whole day!

  • Relational: Snapping at loved ones when they don’t meet your (often unspoken) expectations. Struggling to let people get close because you’re afraid of being “found out” as flawed. (If only they really knew!)

  • Professional: Spending hours over-preparing, reworking, or triple-checking, even you’ve been told by others that it’s good enough. Missing deadlines or opportunities because you’re stuck in analysis paralysis or imposter syndrome.

What if Perfectionism is Trying to HELP?

Maybe being hyperfocused and always ON IT was what kept you safe when you were actually vulnerable — especially as a kid. (Better to preemptively avoid being judged or criticized from those who mean the world to you!)

Maybe your physical body grew up and your skills and resources leveled up to the point where you’re more than okay...but your defense mechanisms never got the memo.

What if there’s more to perfectionism than meets the eye?

If perfectionism is your inner critic’s attempt to help, getting into a power struggle with it only backfires. (Think Chinese finger trap!)

Learn to work WITH your perfectionism so it can finally start working FOR you!

Who am I to Help?

Hiya I’m Joanne, and all that I wanna share with you is from:

  • my own personal experiences of being a hyperresponsible & conscientious firstborn daughter of immigrants

  • my professional work as a therapist & feelings coach specifically for Highly Sensitive Persons, Empaths, Helpers, & Healers (this you?)

I grew up needing to have ALL my shits together because no one else was available — I was the grownup in the room. “If not me, then who?” was my go-to refrain.

Being the Good Kid and Star Student earned me praise & rewards on the outside, but also left me empty & exhausted with burnout, resentment, & deep loneliness on the inside.

I’ve since learned to thank my body and forgive myself for trying to help me survive solo — and then re-train my inner managers to support me according to what I actually need nowadays (not what I USED TO need back then).

I gave my inner critics new job descriptions so they could become advisors instead of adversaries. And I can help you do the same with yours.

When you stop fighting perfectionism and learn to befriend it, you gain:

  • Emotionally: Relief from the constant (annoying) hum of anxiety. A gentler, supportive inner voice that helps you connect with your true strength.

  • Relationally: More openness and trust in your connections (less control & power struggles!). Freedom to let others see the real you, without the mask.

  • Professionally: Focused forward movement without burnout. The confidence to finish and share your work without constantly questioning & belittling yourself.

Benefits of Befriending Your Inner Managers

  • What perfectionism is REALLY about

  • The reasons & feelings driving it from behind the scenes

  • Why working AGAINST perfectionism keeps you stuck

  • How to work WITH perfectionism so it can work FOR you

  • How to befriend your inner critic (with a handy flow chart!)

  • Practical strategies & next steps to live out your new alliance

WHAT THIS MINI COURSE COVERS (IN JUST 1 HOUR!):

No more of the LOSE-LOSE tug-o’-war with your inner critic! Time to get realigned & flourish together!

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Perfectionism shows up when your inner manager tries to create order but gets stuck in overdrive.

Procrastination is its flip side — your inner firefighter’s attempt to help by cooling things down when life feels too overwhelming.

When you understand how these two work together (for better & for worse!), you can finally grow beyond the vicious cycle they (accidentally) reinforce.

Here’s what other BIG Feelers say:

  • Joanne has supported me in identifying my own self sabotaging patterns, mindsets, and helping me to break through my limited beliefs and step into my personal power. Her real life experience of working through difficult emotions helps me to champion myself as I give my gifts to the world.

    Rukmini Poddar
    Artist & Author of “Draw Your Feelings”

  • All my life, I have put others before me and I am burning out piece by piece. I often question whether the decisions I make are for me. I want to be more in control of my life instead of living reactively…proud of my emotions and feelings instead of ashamed…more confident in my relationships and career.

    D.L.
    The BIG Feelings Foundations Member

  • Joanne serves as my "emotions translator." She gets me to reflect inward. Often, she is able to help me understand not only HOW I'm feeling, but WHY.

    Melinda O.
    Therapist

  • Whoa – to clarify emotions the way Joanne did was fascinating, practical, and valuable.

    Michelle P.
    Participant at EnneaSummit

  • Joanne was so helpful in understanding how emotions evolve, explore where they originated for us personally, and how to help ourselves out of the emotional vortex!

    Carly W.
    Personal Coach

  • I really enjoyed Joanne Kim's presentation. She had a really good grasp of the subject and offered great resources. I even purchased one of her masterclasses. Great information.

    Miki H.
    EnneaSummit Participant

  • Joanne helped me become aware of my own experiences and responses to emotions. She helped me develop a more loving and compassionate relationship with all of my feelings.

    Rosa Y.
    Therapist

  • Joanne’s session gave me a brand new lens for connecting to emotions.

    Rachel M.
    EnneaSummit Participant

  • Joanne is my go-to person when I'm stumped by what my emotions are trying to tell me.

    Wren S.
    Therapist